Narcissist Strips Your Dignity


Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse

image chef dignityThe narcissist wants to strip you of your dignity. They want to crush your self esteem. 

You do not have to believe what they tell you or feel the way they want you to feel. The words of a narcissist are designed to evoke an emotional reaction from you. They feed off of your negative feelings. 

Making you cry and making you angry makes the narcissist and the psychopathic narcissist feel powerful. It is fuel to make them exist in the powerful way they want to. 

Once you escape these feelings of lo self esteem and lack of dignity will try to stay with you. The narcissist systematically programmed these feelings into your subconscious. 

The way you hold your body has an effect on your sympathetic nervous system. If your posture is the same as when the narcissist was demeaning you, then those feelings will automatically be triggered. 

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What’s Fabulicious today? The Muppets stand up for GLBT equality.


Who doesn’t love the Muppets? In fact, if you don’t love them, I don’t think I’d want to know you.

But today, I love them even more. Why? They’ve announced that they are cutting ties with the Chick-Fil-A company, after that organization’s CEO boasted that he was quite proud of his company’s involvement in discriminating against gay people.

When you think about it, the Muppets are all about fairness and equality. Look no further than Kermit and Miss Piggy. A frog and a pig; a “non-traditional” couple if ever there was one. Yet as these clips show, their love shines through. The Muppets know that love is love. If only more humans realized that.

What’s Fabulicious today? Nature. And gratitude.


Behold the amazing work of a gifted time-lapsed photographer, and drink in the perceptive words of a smart little girls and a wise old man. Have you looked outside your window today, and noticed the sky and the wonders around you? Take a look. And be grateful.

What’s Fabulicious today? Survivors. Like Liza Minnelli.


Liza with a Z. And with everything else. Why do I love her? There’s the talent, of course. But more than that, there’s the guts. Let’s face it; a lot of people thought she’d go down the same path as her brilliant but troubled, mother, Judy Garland. Indeed, Liza has gone through several addictions (not to mention husbands.) But through it all, she fights back, and REFUSES to be a “victim.” Need proof? Here she is on today’s Good Afternoon America show, belting out her signature New York, New York. She can’t dance like she used to (she’s had hip replacements), so she gets talented young dancers to strut for her. And she focuses on what she CAN do–belt that baby out of the park.

So here’s to Ms. Minnelli–a Fabulicious survivor if ever there was one!

What’s Fabulcious today? The Carolina Chocolate Drops.


I love discovering new music. I also love the classics. So, when a new young band reinterprets classic genres in creative ways–well, I’m over the moon. Such is the case with The Carolina Chocolate Drops. Here, they take an Ethel Waters standard and make it their own. Somehow or other, I can also see Ella Fitzgerald and Sarah Vaughn smiling down from heaven. Take a listen and enjoy.

What’s Fabulicious today? Nature. And metaphores.


Here’s a photo of people taking their sweet time walking up a mountainside in China. But to me, it’s more than that. I wonder how long it took to build those steps. And how do you say, “Watch your step” in Chinese. But then again, aren’t we all climbing our own mountains in our own way? Aren’t we a little freaked about falling? Here’s to those of us who are worried, but find ways to keep climbing anyway. If nothing else, the scenery makes it worthwhile.

What do you think of when you see this photo? I’d love to hear your reply.

What’s Fabulicious today? Butterflies.

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English: Butterflies in the Hirshhorn Sculpture Garden located on the National Mall in Washington, D.C. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

When I was a kid, used to love catching butterflies bare-handed. They were just about the only insects that didn’t freak me out. Funny what color can do to change one’s perceptions. I still look at them with awe and wonder. Do they have any idea how gorgeous they are? Probably not. And that makes them even more beautiful.

What’s Fabulicious today? Failure.


Lucille Ball was let go from acting school. They told her she was wasting her time.

Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper job. They said he wasn’t imaginative.

Abraham Lincoln? Well, let’s just say he was lucky they didn’t have 24-hour news in his day.

Get the picture? They failed–miserably. But they didn’t let failure stop them.

I was recently fired from my job. Does it feel good? No. But honestly, it just wasn’t a good fit for me, and I’m starting to think it’s one of the best things that has happened to me. It has pushed me into trying new and different things–like this blog for example.

So, failure is Fabulicious. Because, as you’ll see in this video, if you haven’t failed, you haven’t lived.


What’s Fabulicious today? Music celebrating America and her people.


The Fourth of July in America: time for friends, family, and fireworks. And it’s a time for music. The American music that stirs me the most are songs honoring “we the people.” I’ve put together a little sample below, ranging from the more traditional (Morton Gould’s American Salute) to more recent tomes that pay homage to our resilience by speaking truth to power (Bruce Springsteen’s Born in the USA and Levon Helm’s Poor Old Dirt Farmer.)

So, Happy Birthday to America–and to her people.